All of us have goals and hopes of what we will be someday, of the things we will accomplish, of the fame we may obtain. But when you have to spend so much time trying to avoid being abused and then coping with the healing, you start to think that the abuse and it’s consequences are the only things in your life. You may begin to resent the amount of time and money you are spending on healing. You may feel that opportunities and chances are passing you by because you have to spend so much energy on the abuse.
Healing and dealing with abuse are the most important things you can do for yourself right now. It may be frustrating to put your dreams on hold for a bit, but it’s not forever; it’s just for now. Your dreams and goals will still be there. They may even be bigger and better than you ever imagined because you have learned that you have worth and value and can do anything you put your mind to.
Source: How long does it hurt? by Cynthia L. Mather and Kristina Debye
